Three questions. Thirty seconds. You'll get one concrete thing to try tonight, written for exactly this moment.
This is first aid, not a diagnosis. It's designed to help you through the next hour — not replace the full picture. When you have more headspace, the three-day observation will show you what's actually driving this, accurately and over time.
This triage gives you something to try tonight — but it's working from a snapshot, not a pattern. The three-day observation takes five minutes a day and builds an accurate picture of what's actually driving this. Most parents say it changes how they see the whole situation. Start it when things are calmer.